As a single Christian, finding the right partner can come with even more difficulties than for the non-faithful. Whether you are coming from a previous relationship, have never had a relationship, or are relatively new to the religion and want to find someone to share your faith with, there are challenges.
Part of the problem is that most Christians tend to find their future partner at a Church function, whether that is through a regular worship service, or through a special event. Sometimes the Church will run special functions for singles to meet, but this is often only in larger churches.
Unfortunately, this doesn’t really help people who have not found anyone that is a suitable match at their Church. And generally, you don’t want to keep changing Churches just because you haven’t found someone to date! This is where online dating can be the perfect thing. Have a look at this review for Christian Café to get a better understanding: https://breakupshop.com/christian-cafe-reviews/
The Problems with Online Dating
Although the internet has been around in a commercial capacity for over 20 years, it is still relatively new technology. Despite the dramatic rise of online interactions and online dating in the age of social media, there are still people who have reservations about online dating.
We have all heard the horror stories of people who have been the victim of targeted scams. These are made all the more believable when most people have received a regular number of emails advising them they have inherited a sizeable amount of money from an obscure relative. Or that an unfortunate widow needs your help getting stolen funds out of a war-torn country.
Although, just as with real life, there are people to be found through online dating who are reprehensible. For the vast majority of online interactions, again – just like in real life, people are genuine, honest, and even if they’re not a perfect match, want the same things out of the interactions as you do.
Who Uses Christian Dating Sites?
When you are looking at general online dating you may be mistaken for thinking that everyone is under legal age! Thankfully, options like Christian Café tend to appeal more to those over 30. This is because they are genuinely interested in finding a long term relationship rather than just a short fling (see here).
In fact, that one particular site boasts over 2 million people signed up at any given time. Obviously, this number will fluctuate as people make long term matches and remove themselves from the site. However, for the most part, there is a consistent flow of Christian people wanting to make a long-term love match for themselves.
How Do I Get the Most Out of My Membership?
It is probably not all that surprising to know that many people who sign up to Christian Café and similar dating memberships are just ‘testing’ it out to see what it’s like. It is a new experience for most of us, and we do want to have a little look around to see what people do and who is on the site.
However, even if you are just testing to see if you want to commit to this as a way to find a partner, take the time to fill out the profile properly.
Yes, it will take you around 30 minutes to sign up and get started. But doing things properly from the beginning will make for a better experience in the long run – even more so if you have signed up for a free trial.
Once you have signed up, take advantage of the features available. Read the forums and get involved in the discussions. Talk to other people about the things that interest you. Although, yes, you are there to find someone special, this doesn’t mean that you can’t also find interesting people to be friends with too.
Reading the blog posts and FAQ from the site creators is also an excellent idea. This gives you strong information about what behavior is acceptable, and what isn’t. Remembering that each site will have different rules and community guidelines. For the vast majority of Christian and faith-based dating sites being currently married, even if separated, is frowned upon, if not outright banned. They want people to join only if they are legally and emotionally available to find a new love match.
Writing the Perfect Profile
What sort of person are you? What sort of person do you want to attract? Who do you think you can imagine yourself happy with? Is love gentle and kind?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs”
– Daily Verses
Or is love passionate and loyal?
“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
When you are writing your profile, have clear in your mind what sort of relationship you really want. If you want someone who is a kind and gentle soul, the sort who wants to be actively involved in the Church – then say so. If you want someone who is more likely to want to travel the world helping the poor and building shelter in ravaged countries, say this instead.
What if you really just want someone who will enjoy going to Church on Sundays, but really just enjoys pottering around and making a home? Then, yes, write this.
You have the perfect opportunity to find the perfect person, and that perfect person will want to be with you for all the reasons that you want to be with them.
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